I know that our friend not helping others isn't his frustration, my question was about how sometimes some of us become so narcissistic or self involved that we can lose sight of things. Especially as YouTube creators. Sometimes some of us ask for help but don't give it, sometime some of us demand of others without demanding anything of ourselves. Sometimes some of us do things like come onto a forum and publicly "break up" with YouTube. I was trying to induce a little self reflection from our friend. It was about becoming the change you want to see in others.
Big YouTubers get tons of request for help from people all the time. They don't have time to help everyone. Some are awesome and do what they can. Some are asshats and are never going to help anyone. As a creator you can't worry about that, what you worry about is making quality content, promoting that content to the best of your ability and improving on everything. It is a waste of creative juice whining the big guys, or heck, any guys aren't helping you. If you focus on that you will be successful. If a big, medium or large YouTuber helps you out it is a bonus. Back to the question "What are you helping others with?" Be the change you want to see in others. If you want a collaboration by all means ask for it. If you want a shout out ask for it. But are you offering anything to their communities, or you just are all like "help me please I need some subs, shout me out!"?
Everything is about relationships. I've gotten tweated by big YouTubers in my genre, I've got offered collabs by pretty big YouTubers in my genre, and guest what? I never ask for this stuff ( not to say I won't in the future) but they do it because when I sincerely like something they do I tell them, I put thoughtful comments on their channels. Never, ever, about me or never sucking up. If they did something kickass I'll tell them. If someone drops a awesome video I tweat it (not that I have a lot of followers on twitter). It's real, it's from the heart and many folks respect that. I feel like there are 4 or 5 pretty big YouTubers I can go to and ask for a collab now because I've built up a bit of a relationship with them. If they need something from me and I can do it I will. Now, I'm no big YouTuber, heck I'm a tiny little fry but I'm willing to help out sincere people just starting out the best I can.
Heck I could have summed it up with this!
If our friend wants help it will be easier if he's a helpful person. If he wants a successful channel he has to create, promote, and improve. Help from others is a perk not a prerequisite.